Over the years, I’ve encountered many people who will say or do just about anything to make others like them. I can’t relate to that. I’m not one of them.
If you bend over backwards to make people like you, you’re a sell out. You aren’t being true to yourself, and that, to me, is the same as lying. You cannot hide your true intentions or feelings forever, so why waste time and effort trying? Things will only be worse in the long run.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe that we have to put forth the effort to be civil and compromise when necessary. That’s not the same thing as fearing someone won’t like you for being yourself.
Admittedly, I have a difficult time getting along with people, and there are plenty that dislike me. But my life is an open book. As you turn the pages, you will experience different sides of me….some good, some bad, and some ugly, but they are all different facets of the person that is me.
I would rather hand over the entire book and have you decide if you can deal with what it holds. To me, that is more honest than giving you one page at a time, until all the good parts are gone and it’s inevitable that you experience the bad.
If you open up to someone and find that they don’t want to be in your life, who cares? Wouldn’t you rather know in the beginning than try to live a lie? Not everyone is intended to be in our lives forever, so don’t waste your time on those that don’t appreciate you. There are plenty more people out there who will if you free yourself from the bonds of being a people pleaser.
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